As a therapist, I can tell you that there really is no “normal.” There are many socially-constructed “norms” for relationships, primarily relating to the concepts of monogamy, marriage, and children. These constructs may work for many couples, but it may be time to consider what you and your partner really want. Times are certainly changing and ideals are changing too. There are new questions to ask yourself and your partner: Is marriage right for me/us? Is monogamy what I am